But Black Women Can’t: Get Wrinkles….

Hello Clumpers! This is Tamar and I would like to welcome to another But Black Women Can’t post. The purpose of this series to dispel the many myths and stereotypes that have haunted Black women for centuries. Colors we can’t wear, products we shouldn’t touch….it’s getting old. It’s time we start reclaiming our identities and defining our own beauties. Who’s with me?!! Email your suggestions or ideas to TamarForClumps@gmail.com. I would love to try out any theory you may have.

All my life I have been surrounded by beautiful women of color. I was always taught that “Black don’t crack” meaning that we can’t get wrinkles and in our case that includes breakouts. The only product I saw my Grandma use on her face was Noxzema and her skin never showed any signs of aging. I can look into my Mom’s bathroom and find that same blue container.

She follows the same rules. But me? I decided to go a different route. I believe that every woman has beautiful skin. I also know that we HAVE to take care of it! I’m the type of woman that rarely gets any type of breakout. I don’t know if it’s because of genetics or because of the mountain of products I’ve tried over the years. I’ve used just about everything from Clean and Clear to witch hazel to alcohol to Proactive and guess where I ended up? Right back to Noxzema! I will be 28 this month and I’m positive that when I’m my Mom’s age (I’m not tellin’ how old, I’m scared) my skin will be just as beautiful as hers. See my Mom!

I use Noxzema along with a a few other products thrown in like a serum and I use a night cream that I’ve yet to review. In my opinion, none of us are safe when it comes to wrinkles but we all can protect ourselves. I will be perfectly happy when I’m 90 years old with a million wrinkles as long as I know that I lived a full life and did something worth talking about.

What steps are you taking to prevent premature aging? Is there a product that you saw your Mom use when you were young that you find yourself using now?

Until next time,
  • Jillian

    I use sunblock every single day!

  • Shen

    i love this post and your mom is b'tiful! :) i've used noxema before but i guess it was just too much for my 15 y/o skin. :( now i wish i can try it. :)

  • Vixxan

    My mom, sisters, aunts and grandmothers all used Noxzema. I tried a lot of skincare products over the years and I always come back to the tried and true Noxzema.

  • T.R.

    I started out on Noxema and graduated to more "advanced" skin care. :O) Right now I'm on a regime that my esthetician put me on. Biggie for me right now, is sunscreen. I think we as black women think the sun won't affect us. WRONG. The one I'm about to add to my game plan is Clarion's sunblock in 40. It's expensive but feels beautiful on the skin.

    As far as "black don't crack", I'm seeing in the more later generations 45 and below, a lot of cracking. From too much stress, drugs & alcohol, weight, food, environment, lack of water, too much suger, emotional issues, etc. and just ugly attitude (it's true, beauty is skin deep but UGLY is to the bone – and not physical ugly either), we are definitely not looking like our parents and grandparents.

    I agree we, just like EVERY other woman, have to take care of ourselves, physically, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually and physically. We can no longer rely simply on our perceived "genetics". I live in LA and I'm going to tell ya, these women don't PLAY!!! They do the work (well at least physically) and I don't hate on nobody who do they work. :O)

  • K

    Wow, please tell your Mom she looks FANTASTIC!!!! I use sunscreen religiously!!!

  • Jalaea

    I get those "that's your MOM" comments all the time, because my mom looks FABULOUS (as does yours :-) ) at 47. Growing up, that's the only beauty product (besides Vaseline, lol) in my medicine cabinet..worked for her, and definatly works for me.

    I use Ponds Makeup Remover wipes, but the only facial cleanser I use is Noxema…hey, can't go wrong with "tried and true", lol.

    Great post.

  • Rachel

    Even at my age (likely older than most of you here) I still take my makeup off every night, then moisturize. I work with women who do not. I have oily, acne prone skin (groan).

    I don't know much about "black women can't" but I can honestly say that most of the black women I know (my age) do not look as worn and wrinkled as their white counterparts. Take a black woman and a white woman the same age and so far as facial skin goes, the white woman usually ends up looking rode hard and put away wet.

    The best example I can think of is Diahann Carroll. That woman is 74 years old! How many 74 year old white women do I know that age who look that good? ZERO.

  • Rai

    Sunblock is a must! The sun can really cause so much damage.
    I don't really have a problem with wrinkles or anything… yet.

    My grandma is 74 is she still looks fresh! lol Some Black does crack, but not all.
    It's a well known fact that White people age faster.

    Your mom looks fab!

  • Product Junkie Diva

    Thanks for sharing. I like to mix pure vitamin c in with my moisturizer. I drink lots of water and I moisturize my skin.
    thanks for sharing the pic of your lovely mom.

  • Anonymous

    Oh my, does this mean I am a star, Tamar…..

  • Miss Pretty

    Hey guys! I know my mom reads the comments and I'm sure she is the anon one in the bunch. Thank you so much for the mom compliments!

    I do believe that sunscreen in using sunscreen! I find it easier to use a cream that already includes it because of the ashen look it gives my skin.

    @Rachel Dihanne Carrol is very beautiful! I think Cicely Tyson is to!

    @Rai I wish my Grandma was still around!I miss her so much. I know yours is a lot of fun!!! As well as wise.

  • Anonymous

    un-petroeum jelly from alba…use even small amounts of it on my face. yes, it's true that some of us women of color don't age nearly as quickly as our white counterparts..sometimes i attribute that to my oily skin. All the same, we still need to protect our skin (i use oil of olay the plain stuff with spf) so we can keep it that way!!

  • Anonymous

    this blog is freakin' awesome. love the sense of humor!

  • MizzTracey

    Until VERY recently my skin care regimen consisted of (ready?) Ivory Soap and Vaseline!!! However, my 38 y/o face requires a little more work these days. I can vouch for the Noxzema though – slather some on, leave it sit for a while and then use a fine loofah cloth? BAM! Glow, glow, glow!

  • Anonymous

    I've always used noxzema & love it! Everyone always asks me how I keep my skin so clear and I say its the power of noxzema xD lol
    love it!

  • Michelle O

    I read somewhere in some oprah publication (or somewhere LIKE that) that by the age of 50, a female needs a good moisturizer, which should be worn daily to prevent and treat wrinkles.  Luckily for me, a co-worker in my office recommended the Shielo Complexion Moisturizer.

    The Shielo Moisturizer is a great price for the quality of the ingredients, and I though “why not?” . 
    I tried many expensive creams. Nothing works like this one, just try for 1 month at least and you will see how your wrinkles get thinner and thinner.

    I use it every other night on my forehead, after I noticed very fine lines criss-crossing my forehead. After one month, I noticed the fine lines on my forehead are completely GONE. My face looks 25 years old again. Amazing. I’m going to tackle my eyes next…