Dear Brown Girl: An Open Letter

Dear Brown Girl,
Hey sis! How you doin’? I hope you are managing to find some positivity despite, well…everything. I know life is tough for a lot of us. I don’t even have to tell you what’s going on, because I know you’re living it. Don’t let the bull crap of the world question your worth and purpose. You are wanted and needed and the world is a better place because of you. Don’t let the media tell you WHY you can’t get a man. Yeah, I know mainstream magazines hardly highlight our beauty but have you looked in the mirror lately? Girl…you fine! And freakin’ A, man! It is so hard to find television shows and movies where we are the stars. I mean…where are we in Sex and the City? *sigh*

But you know what? Despite what the media tells me (which I ignore), I KNOW better. When I see websites like Chocolate Brides and Black and Married with Kids, I don’t feel hopeless. When I see websites like Black Girl Long Hair and Black Girls Run, I feel elated! These ladies have decided to share their stores about their personal adventures in hair and fitness, but they are also smashing stereotypes! Because believe it or not A LOT of people don’t think that Black women can grow long hair.  Websites like La CosmopoLatina and Disgrasian feature news, tips and reviews catered to my Latina and Asian sisters. When I go to events like the World Natural Hair Show and Blogalicious Conference, I feel like my thoughts and lifestyle matter. I don’t feel so alone anymore!

And don’t get it twisted my non-brown girls. It’s not about exclusivity.
But how am I supposed to feel about myself when women like me are hardly shown in print media? Is there something wrong with my dark skin? My kinky hair? My size 12 hips?

Who remembers A Girl Like Me?

I too was a little Black girl that didn’t always love her brown skin and thick hair. I loathed my big lips and dreamed up of long straight hair. I didn’t see the beauty in being a brown girl.

This past weekend I had a meeting with The Peace and Beauty Project. After the meeting, I chit chatted with a 16-year old and her Mother. Her Mother went on and on about how her daughter was constantly being teased. As a result of that, the teen’s self-image was the pits. I sympathized with her because I can relate. My parents never knew it, but I was bullied every day in middle school. For being too smart. “Talking white”. Having long hair. Not having a boyfriend. Not having boobs (if only they could see me now…HA!!). I cried my way through middle school. I hated how I looked and didn’t see my beauty for a very long time.

But now I see it and can’t help but shout it from the rooftops. Clumps of Mascara was never a blog that was strictly for brown girls. Beauty products and practices are universal and I would never want to limit myself to just one audience. But what Clumps of Mascara attempts to do is remind brown girls what they CAN do. YES, you can wear this color. YES, you can wear your hair a certain way. YES, you can start your own business. YES, YES, YES.

I know, I’m all over the place with this letter, y’all (in typical B fashion) but it was laid on my heart to write this. I hope you realize that you are a Queen. And that goes for ALL girls. Yep…you’re royalty. Treat yourself like so. Take care of your body, your mind, your spirit and yourself like your life depends on it. Because it does. Be the best person, citizen, wife, mother, friend, daughter, sister, _________ you can be. Find inspiration and be an inspiration. Get yourself a mentor. I have been so blessed to e-cross paths with mine. I wonder if the ladies behind Afrobella, Luxe Tips and Execumama know how much I love them. These ladies are such enormous inspirations for me. I look at them and see stars. I aspire to be the strong entrepreneurs, wives and mothers that they are.

Who and what inspires you? Find them. Find it. I know we’re all trying to get somewhere but don’t forget to help others while you work on your hustle.

I love y’all. I really do. In a world where people are so used to shootin’ WTF-faces and shun hugs and handshakes, I can honestly say that I love y’all.

Go ‘head, my Queens. Let’s continue taking this world by storm!!


  • Nicole

    Oh boy, that was a powerful post! I'm not a brown girl, but I have always thought that you ladies were powerful. I think that you are, if I'm allowed to make a generalization in a positive manner, a gorgeous group of women who can pull of any color you choose – and I love the positivity that you seem to exude. I hate to hear that there are times you've been down, personally – it makes me sad for you, but I'm glad you can realize your beauty inside and out. YOU are one of the main inspirations for me. *hugs*

  • Nikia

    Thank you so much for this! I'm so guilty of feeling hopeless being a Black woman. Not because I don't believe that we're beautiful and powerful, but because the rest of the world doesn't seem to think so.
    I teach my daughter every day that she is beautiful and powerful, but its nice to have someone teach it to me. God Bless.

  • Chai

    you really do know how to shine the perfect light on an otherwise typical Monday…! You're awesome, hope you know that:-0!!!

  • ‘Funlayo

    Beautiful, beautiful letter from an equally beautiful and powerful sista! Yes yes yes, we CAN do anything our hearts desire, accomplish our goals, live, love and laugh 24-7-365! All best to you and all other brown girls doing our thing!

  • KissyFace Artistry

    That was a beautiful letter, indeed. Thanks for sharing your experience. A lot of what you shared, I could relate

  • Harlem Loves

    Beautifully and wonderfully put B. A wonderful letter and I'm so glad you decided to share it with us.


  • Pam

    Wow!!! I found you via Afrobella. What an open beautiful letter. Thank you for sharing your life, thoughts and words of inspiration. A great way to begin a work week.


  • NewNaturalista

    You and I are on the same wave length with this!
    I recently started showcasing women that inspire me and I realized just how powerful their message is for every little brown girl out there. Man, when I was young I held on to every little compliment thrown my way – it's important in building self esteem and living as a brown girl in this society we need to see more of us.

    Thanks so much – I'm glad Afrobella featured you. I'm now a fan!

  • Amina

    wooooooow! this letter was powerful!! Thank you so much for posting it!!! I will keep it and read it whenever I am not feeling well! hugs

  • xoxotara

    I love this! I feel a bit angered at the news reports and editorials about the plight of the Black woman and her struggles in feeling happy and loved – but we are warriors, the mothers of humanity, beautiful, powerful and strong.

    But sometimes we could use a hug. :)

    Thanks for posting.

  • beautylogicblog

    I love you and this post. You are such a positive young woman. Thanks,

  • DWJ

    Your positivity is needed in a world like this. You usually perk me up everyday on Twitter. Thanks for being you and being brown 😉

  • MsFarrah

    Beautiful letter Britt!! Thanks for sharing:)
    Love ya girl

  • CY♥

    I LOVE THIS! so beautiful & definitely needed today!

  • Lisa

    I'm 45 years old and I still need to hear that I'm beautiful sometimes. Thank you for the reminder and thank you for your fabulous blog!

    P.S. That's my beautiful cousin, Meagan Shea with you. Isn't she gorgeous!!!

  • uh.lawn.uh

    THANK YOU for this. Very well written!

  • K&T Makeup Artistry

    Wow that was one of the most powerful posts you have ever made since I have been reading your blog for over a year now! I love it and thank you so much for writing it! Very well done!

  • K&T Makeup Artistry

    Wow that was one of the most powerful posts you have ever made since I have been reading your blog for over a year now! I love it and thank you so much for writing it! Very well done!

  • K&T Makeup Artistry

    Wow that was one of the most powerful posts you have ever made since I have been reading your blog for over a year now! I love it and thank you so much for writing it! Very well done!

  • K&T Makeup Artistry

    Wow that was one of the most powerful posts you have ever made since I have been reading your blog for over a year now! I love it and thank you so much for writing it! Very well done!

  • shmemi

    I really love your blog. I do love me some makeup, but you're wickedly funny and yeah, I like seeing a brown girl writing a beauty blog.

    I remember growing up I always wanted to be Jewish like the other girls I knew, instead of Japanese. I hella wanted me some curls. I even got my hair permed once, it was BAD, let me tell you. The point is, keep up the good work and I do really love clumps.

  • msvivienne

    This was beautiful! I love it. :)

    –A Brown Girl

  • Anonymous

    Thank you!

  • Rainy Day Diva

    Just catching up on my tweets and discovered the link to this post. Bravo! Sometimes it just takes someone standing up and saying what needs to be said, "We Are Beautiful!" Thank you.

  • Nicole

    Great Post! Loved it, keep up the excellent work!

  • lrob

    I was so inspired when I read your message.Hold on my young sisters there is still much hapiness to experience out here. I got married on the eve of 30 and did not have a child until 36. Embrace your youth, love yourself and the things you seek will come to you. B you are the start of something big. Keep up the great work!

  • I love this letter and ur blog since day one. I’ve always commented about how I found your blog thru Youtube and watching ur videos would just uplift my mood. I’m not a brown girl myself.
    My fave part: yes! Yes! Yes!

    • Brittany

      Awww, thank you so much, darling. I really appreciate it.

  • Dadsredgirl

    i love this so much. it really touched my hear. thank you