Okay, listen. Jarring title, I know but someone out there needs to read this. Keep in mind that a lot of times when I write messages like that, I’m really talking to myself. I’ve been this way since I was in middle school. I’d write these fluffy mini-novels about popular girls who dated cute guys and they had these perfect lives. THEY were perfect. I gave my characters lives that I wanted.
Except instead of being characters, y’all are living and breathing ABLE people of the world. Just like me.
So why do we make so many excuses?
I mean, my goodness. Lately I’ve been catching myself swimming in a crock of excuses. I was literally suffocating myself with a slew of reasons why I can’t, shouldn’t, wouldn’t and shant.
Here I am – 31-years old, in decent physical shape in a decent financial situation living in a world where I can literally do ANYTHING and I want to whine and make excuses for why I can’t travel to the Grand Canyon? Or Canada? Or Italy? Or Haiti?
My 3-year old isn’t aware of the stresses of the world but many times, I’ve found that this kid, this tiny human, has more courage in her pinky finger than I do in my entire body. It’s perplexing and frustrating but mostly it’s just sad.
What brought this on? I’ve been so wunderlust’y this entire year. I’ve spent most of 2016 staring at the gorgeous pictures of friends on vacations. My friends aren’t homebodies. My friends don’t just travel but they snap beautiful pictures and then post them. And instead of being inspired by them, I’d get all self-righteous and say thing like…
“Well, pfft. Of course she can travel the world. She doesn’t have any kids.”
“I mean, good for her. I’d travel more too if my husband didn’t work as much.”
“Italy, huh? Dang. Must be nice. She probably doesn’t have student loan debt like I do.”
“WOW! I wish I could go to Haiti but I don’t have the time to go.”
…etc. I had a few dozen excuses for why I couldn’t travel the way I wanted to this year. They’re all a load of manure. I’m my own problem. I can’t blame being a nursing mom or having student loans or having difficulties coordinating with my husband’s schedule be the reasons for why I don’t live the life I want and NEED to live.
The wake-up call that brought along this revelation?
A girlfriend of mine posted how she was going to be spending the next 6 months traveling the world. I hopped on Instagram and within seconds, I saw another friend post pictures of her in Ireland. I’ve got a friend going to Haiti next week and another gal wrote a blog post about how she manages to travel internationally with her children. I am surrounded by people who have don’t make excuses and they just get up and…go.
So I’m next.
Mark my words. In 2017, I’m going to be traveling. The plan is to do a few kind of trips.
- Business trips (for conferences/industry-related events)
- Solo trips (just me, myself and I)
- Couple trips (me and Esposo)
- Family trips (our family of 4!)
- Girlfriend Trips (me, friend that I like and endless fun/adventure)
Hold me accountable, will you? Today I applied for a new passport because mine expired. I don’t have an international trip planned yet but shouldn’t I at least have a valid passport?
And what about you? What will you stop making excuses for and just DO?