Baby Clumps: 25 Weeks + Being A Stay At Home Mom. Yay or nay?


Oh man. What a week. For both Baby Clumps and I. I’ve spent a great deal of this pregnancy being emotionally cool and calm but this past week I opened up a friggin’ Tears Factory. I am sooooooo emotional. And this isn’t like me. I’m a reformed crybaby who has become so thugged out that crying rarely happens with me. But this week? Whoa. I’ve been a hot crying mess.

Things That Have Made Me Cry:
-Dropping a banana in the mud.
-Missing out on the great weather because I work inside.
-Loving pomegranates but consistently and unintentionally buying rotten ones.
-Insane migraines.
-Being too cold. Or being too hot.

Insane, right? I’m so weepy during the day and have to excuse myself several times at work to walk it out and get my thoughts together.

Bean’s weekly stats:

“Your little grower’s physical proportions are pretty much birth-ready and most of their remaining development will largely be weight gain and a ton of nervous system development.
The good news is: if your child were to be born premature, they’d likely survive without much trauma as their lungs started producing “surfactant” last week, which means their tiny respiratory system is getting stronger with each passing day.” (source)


So Bean is growing up and her little kicks are becoming stronger. And some are getting painful! I try not to complain because they are little reminders that she’s doing okay. Esposo can actually feel her kicks now and he spends time singing to her and OMG, it’s the sweetest thing ever. Esposo’s voice already brings tears to my eyes but knowing that Bean can hear him? Oh wow. I cry every time.

When it comes to nutrition and fitness, I am SO damn proud of myself. For one, I’ve kinda sorta cut out my insane consumption of bread. Which is no easy feat, y’all. I get in a lot of fruit and veggies and do healthy snacking. I’m open to idea of chicken again but only in moderation; which is like once or twice a week. I drink at least 80 ounces of water a day and I’ve been walking 1.5 miles each day which doesn’t seem like a lot but it’s something! I want to crank it up to 2 miles by next week. I get in daily stretches too.

Pain-wise, I had 2 migraines last week that left me for dead. I refuse to take any medication (not that they’d help my migraines anyway) and suffered in silence. Sleeping sucks and I have to sleep upright otherwise I wake up with the worst back pain evaaaaaa. I was coming down with a cold few days ago but got rid of that by swallowing garlic, downing raw honey, up’ing my Vitamin C and drinking echinacea tea. Works every time!


You’ve probably seen me in this yellow cardigan/red belt get-up before. I’ll probably repeat it a dozen times again. I can make it work with everything! Plus I ain’t above rockin’ the same look once or twice. Nope. 😎

Okay, so quick discussion about the whole being a stay at home mom thing. Prior to getting pregnant, I never even considered being a stay at home mom. In fact, excuse my ignorance, but it seemed…boring. How could I be in the house all day doing chores and tending to a baby? Granted sitting around an office all day isn’t all that exciting but at least I’d have adult interaction and could help provide for my family financially. At least I wouldn’t be playing into that typical role of “Mom stays home with the kids while Dad goes out to work.” At least I’d have a job with goals and would have a sense of purpose outside of raising my children. Plus, daycares are great. Bean would get plenty of infant interaction which will result in her being where she needs to be developmentally. I mean, I’m not a childcare professional. Surely the people at daycare know more about how to educate and care for my child than me. Right?! Right????

I don’t know, y’all. Bean will be here very soon and it just hit me…I don’t want to have to hand her over to someone else and head back to work after she’s only be on this Earth for 12 short weeks. I don’t want to have to pump 4-5 times a day at work when I could be breastfeeding her around the clock. I don’t want to have to worry about her and question if the daycare staff are being clean enough, attentive enough and caring enough. I never WANTED to be a stay at home mom because I thought giving up my career for a life of parenting at home would be hard. But it’s not just about ME anymore. And I’m starting to see that. And I’m feeling super regretful that I didn’t think about this earlier. Chances are I’ll never be a STAY at home mom. Work from home? Absolutely because 90% of what I do for Clumps can be done at home and can provide some financial gain. But can our family financially make it without my full time job right now? I don’t know. We planned for me to go straight back to work and now I’m not sure I can do it. *gulp*


Quick Bean stats!

Weight Gain: ZERO. Still haven’t gained anything. I’m starting to realize that this is okay.

Weird Symptom: I’ll have this raging appetite and make attempts to stuff my face and then get full after just a few bites.

Fears:Life post-pregnancy. I really don’t want to go back to working a 9-5 and be stuck with leaving my baby at a daycare.

Cravings: None. Although I do want fries at least once a week. And I give myself that as long as I get my daily walks in.

Things I Miss: Ceviche and working out at the gym like a mad woman. I also miss sitting comfortably in the car and sleeping throughout the night.



Any stay at home moms in the house? Or what about you gals who plan to have kids one day…what route do you think you will take? I don’t know many stay at home moms so this is a topic that I know very little about.

Baby Clumps: 24 Weeks

This is going to be a super quick post because to be honest, I don’t have any MAJOR updates. I’m actually working on a post about being Pregnant and Overweight but it’s going to take a few more days for me to crank that out. It’ll probably be one of those TMI posts that I love writing but hey…I promised to share a great deal of my pregnancy with y’all and being a larger girl AND pregnant comes with its issues, ya dig?

Anywho – this week Bean has officially reached a level of viability. In a few words, it means that if Bean were born today, she would stand a chance of surviving. Of course, I want her to bake for the remainder of 2nd AND 3rd trimester but it’s just another milestone that I can’t help but be happy about.

If you’re bored enough and want to get the skinny on the hell that was 1st trimester, check out my Baby Bean Bean blog. That blog puts it allllll out there. If you’re super squeamish, I don’t recommend reading it. I get emotional reading some of those posts because man, being pregnant SUCKED then.

See! Told you it would be a quick post. I’ll see y’all next week. Have an awesome weekend!

Baby Clumps: 23 Weeks

I can’t believe the baby in my belly has been around for almost 6 months. Time was going by slowly for a second but it seems like only yesterday that I was 11 weeks pregnant. And 16 weeks pregnant. And now I’m 23? WOW! I am getting more and more excited. I’m ready to meet my little Bean. I’m ready to see who she looks like and what her personality will be like. Of course I do have some anxiety too. I’m going with cloth diapering and that alone seems like a huge challenge. I’m not telling many people that I’m doing it because most just want to talk me out of it. Kinda like how people question why I’m not giving birth at a hospital. Pfft. I’m hoping that Bean will be healthy. And that I’ll fall into the rhythm of motherhood without too many hiccups. I try not to worry too much. Worrying is like so totally first trimester. Just kidding. I think the worrying just gets worse once the babe is born. 😕 😯

Here’s what baby girl is up to….

“Your little womb hi-jacker is starting to kick their break-dance party up a notch now that his/her ears are registering sounds from the outside world! The sound of a phone ringing, a thunder clap, or a car honking will actually jar their little ears enough to elicit a kick or violent bout of squirming.” (source)

I’ve been talking to Bean for months and now that I know she can actually hear me, I don’t stop rubbing my belly and chit-chatting with her. I don’t feel weird about it either. I’ve spent many years of my life talking talking to myself so at least now I know someone’s listening. Ha!

How do I feel? I feel great. Most days I don’t have a single complaint. I get annoyed with sitting at work for 8 hours a day but I’m moving and stretching hourly. I find it necessary for my sanity and for my body. If I sit too long, getting up actually hurts. I’m drinking a ton of water each day (at least 70 oz) and I’m doing better with eating. I’ve dropped the salt & vinegar chips and I am back with my green smoothie love affair and steamed kale. Chicken and turkey still gross me out but I am so in love with seafood. I know I can’t eat a ton of it so I try to get a good 2 servings a week.

My energy is never consistent. Some days I feel like I could run a 5K. Other days I feel like someone hit me with a stick and I am just out of it. I nap when I can and when I can’t I cry. No really, I do. The fatigue is unbearable when it hits and not being able to nap on demand is pure torture.

I still haven’t purchased anything for babe. Not one thing. My baby shower is next month so maybe I’ll get inspired. I am finally REALLY enjoying pregnancy. This was the part that people talked about! Why couldn’t I have just skipped to this point and avoiding that crap called first trimester?

Oh! And look who stopped hating me.

Of course, this dog is crazy inconsistent so I’m sure in a few days she’ll go back to running from me like I stole her bone. Womp.

Quick Bean stats!

Weight Gain: ZERO. Yep, you read right. While I gained 9 from the 15 that I lost, my last midwife appointment revealed that I lost 5 lbs. So in total, I have lost 3 lbs this pregnancy. The midwife isn’t worried but it freaked me out for a minute.

Symptoms: Nightly leg craps (those mofos huuuuuuurt), occasional fatigue, back pain, stuffy nose that won’t ever go away and occasional heat spells.

Fears: The glucose screening in 4 weeks. This screening tests for gestational diabetes. While I love veggies, I do have a weakness for sweets, white flour and pasta. I’m really going to make more of an effort to slowly rid them from my diet.

Baby Name?: We have one in mind but I’m not in love with it anymore. And I would marry the man that is SOOO involved with naming his child. Ugh.

Baby Shower Theme: The colors are inspired by the colors of fall. Y’all know I couldn’t go with pink. *gags*

Have an awesome weekend!

Baby Clumps: 21 Weeks + How many kids do you want?

Aaaaand we’re back! I didn’t update last week and some of y’all were like “Heyyyyy, where are the Baby Clumps updates?” Last week I had an ultrasound and wanted to wait to get those updates before I did a formal update. Good news! Baby Clumps is tall and right on mark with with everything. The ultrasound technician spend a good 30 minutes pointing out itty bitty baby goodies. Her 4-chamber heart was a beatin’ and Esposo and I were happy to see that she was in good health. She did some kicking and moving and I got all emotional. Because yeah, I know there’s a baby in there but…there’s actually a BABY in there.


What the babe is up to this week….

“Your beautiful little miracle-gro baby will be putting on a full ounce and a half this week. Over in the dermatology department: your sweet lil bun’s thin soft skin is very red, rather translucent, and a bit wrinkled. Lastly, the beginnings of what is commonly called “brown fat” is just starting to fill in to help your baby retain some body heat, which is crucial as they’re not yet capable of regulating their own body temperature.” (source)

Baby girl has officially gone from flutters to kicks. She’s super active in the morning and I can often feel her kicking away after I drink cold water. I never get sick of feeling it. I’ll probably be biting those words when I’m 8 months pregnant. But  I enjoy having the the reminder that she’s doing okay. I don’t feel so in the dark with how she’s doing anymore. Thank God!

Physically, I feel just fine. Nausea has disappeared completely and each day, I feel…good. I have very few complaints. Fatigue comes in spurts. Some days I’ll be fine and others I can’t stay up past 9pm. Backaches are regular but manageable. Sitting at a desk for 8 hours a day ain’t an option and my coworkers are more than aware of my discomfort. I am forever going from standing up and sitting down. The other day I was working on my laptop while on my knees. Yeah.

The belly is shrinking less and less and most days I’ve got a pretty prominent belly. Larger clothes are a must so I’ve been spending a few pennies on those instead of maternity clothes. Most are dresses because finding flattering maternity jeans/pants has been virtually impossible. Some days I don’t feel like I look THAT pregnant. But I soooo feel it.

Soooo lately, Esposo and I have been talking about how many children we want and how we want to space these kiddos out. Having kids back-to-back terrifies me a little because having to deal with being pregnant AND juggling a toddler just sounds…unpleasant. Sure plenty of women do it with no problem but I have to be realistic about what may work with our family. But at the same time, do I really want to wait 5+ years? We’re entertaining the idea of having no more than 3 children but I am completely lost at how spacing will go. I don’t even want to think about getting pregnant again until Baby Clumps is at least 2 years old. Maybe 3 years old.

Quick Bean Stats!

Weight Gain: I have officially gained 1 lb this entire pregnancy. I’m hoping not to gain any more than 20 lbs this pregnancy. I’m not sure if that’s realistic or not but yeahhh.

Fitness?: I had a barre class this week and it was AWESOME. I will definitely be going in my post-natal days. I’m doing yoga/kegal exercises each morning and they are so renewing. Next week will be longer walks with the dog. 20-30 minutes a day if I can.

Ugly Symptom: Heartburn. Tums keeps it away but if I don’t have a Tums around, oooooh weeeee.

Most Common Pregnancy Comment: “You don’t look pregnant at all.”

Food Stats: I am still anti-meat but doing a lot better with incorporating veggies in my diet. The gag reflex and most food aversions have disappeared. I would like to meet with a nutritionist to ensure I’m getting enough iron. I don’t think I am. I eat some junk food too (Salt and Vinegar chips, Skittles, french fries) but in moderation. The fear of gestational diabetes is in the back of my mind so I’m careful.

Stretch marks?: Yep. But I had them on my belly pre-pregnancy. The pregnancy marks are darker though. Somehow I don’t care. I’m growing a life here.

Goals for Upcoming Week: Purchase and start reading The Vaccine Book by Robert Sears. I am not okay with how many shots babies are getting at such young ages. Esposo and I will be doing some hardcore research on this. It’s also time to sign up for a childbirth or child raising class. I would like for us both to be aware of how to do CPR on a baby.

Moms and gals who want to be Mommies….how many kiddies do you want? And how far apart do you want to space them? 


Baby Clumps: 19 Weeks + Being The Mom With A Life

Talk about a belly that grew overnight, uh? I’m actually okay with the fact that I didn’t really pop until close to my 5th month. As a woman who has always tried to lose weight and not gain, gaining too much too soon would have put me in the nut house. For awhile I thought something was wrong with me because I didn’t look pregnant. Like the old saying go, “Be careful what you wish for.” My overnight belly is reminiscent of my boobies. I went from undershirts to double DDs in like…a night. I’m not even kidding. I always tell the joke that one day I woke up and a boob plopped on the floor.

I’m so inappropriate, y’all. Poor Bean. She’s going to have to endure crazy stories like that for a lifetime.

What the babe is up to this week….

“Your favorite womb-hijacker is suddenly huge, at 10 inches in length! This week your lil’ fetus will start digesting the extremely appetizing diet of amniotic fluid and baby wee, as they are now capable of swallowing, digesting, and passing the fluid as far as their tiny “large” intestines.” (source)

How do I feel? GREAT! I really don’t have many complaints. My back hurts all the time but I try to get up and move throughout the workday. Nausea still greets me in the morning and early evenings (whether I snack or not) but I’ve learned to just deal with it. I remind myself of Filbert from Rocko’s Modern Life.

Aside from the nausea, I do okay day-to-day. I thought I’d be free from heartburn but I get that daily too. It’s manageable though. Annoying? Yes. Worse than 1st trimester sickies? No. And for that reason, I don’t complain about much.

So today’s random topic is something that is quite controversial and I may step on a few toes. Not intentionally of course but when pregnancy and motherhood is discussed, things get a little funny. So here’s the thing…

I wasn’t one of those little girls who pictured herself being a mother. I had baby dolls and Barbies but they were more accessories in my girldom than actual toys that foreshadowed my future. Even in high school and college, I knew I wanted to be married and have kids, but it was never something that I actively worked towards. I didn’t have that maternal clock that many of my friends seemed to have. In fact, in my early 20’s, motherhood seemed to be more of an inconvenience than anything else. I pictured myself having to swap everything I loved to become a Mom. I thought I’d have to loose my self-identity, friends, hobbies and passions to raise a child. I’d seen friends do this and just knew that being a Mom closer to to my 30’s was the only choice for me. I wanted to really LIVE before becoming a Mom. And so lived I did.

Esposo and I made the decision to become parents because we thought we were in a good place in our lives to do so. Plus we both genuinely wanted to be parents. Now with being just a few months away from being a Mom, I still have this fear that I’ll be so consumed with motherhood that I will loose myself. I have no problem dedicating my life to raising my children but I want to ensure that Esposo will still continue making music a part of his life. And that I will still blog, travel, volunteer and workout like I’ve been doing before pregnancy. We don’t live near relatives so I can’t rely on grannies as nannies and cousins who will babysit while I go to the gym. I’m sure it’ll be a challenge to even crank out a blog post every day. While battling this fear, I run into spurts of “You know what…we can do this!” And that’s what keeps me going. There are plenty of women who have managed to find a balance between parenting and running businesses, working outside of the home, enjoying their hobbies and spending time with their friends.

Bean will gleefully be #1 in our lives and there’s no doubting that but I will try my hardest to be that Mom with a life. Is that okay? Is it okay that I want my children to be integral parts of my life without making them my entire life? My friends with kids say that ‘things will change’ when Bean is born and I’m sure but that’s not the kind of discouraging comment a first time mom wants to hear, ya know?

Quick Bean Stats!

Weight Gain: 9 lbs! I freaked out for a minute but then realized that I lost a significant amount during first trimester. Midwife confirms that I’m right on track but thinks that Bean may be a week or 2 ahead of schedule. I’ll be scheduling an ultrasound to see.

Strangest Symptom: The other night I noticed my tummy beating as if it was my heart. So weird!

Maternity Photos?: Yep. They’ll have a comic book spin, I’m sure. We won’t be doing any bare-bellied pics. I kinda hate those…

Baby Registry: Finally got ’em done! My Mom and sister did everything. I didn’t realize how clueless I was when it came to baby essentials.

Last person to touch my belly: So I’m on the elevator and this random man asks me if I’m pregnant and then proceeds to try and touch my belly. Men do this?! I don’t want any stranger touching me but some creepy man? Eww!

Goals for Upcoming Week: Prenatal yoga this weekend! The goal is to do it at least once a week. I also need to finalize a venue for the shower. Oh! And drink more water. I get down 60 oz a day but the midwife says I should be doing more. Oh boy…


Any gals out there who aren’t moms but want to be one day and can relate to the fear of potentially loosing yourself in motherhood? Is there a sure way to combat these feelings? 

Other Baby Posts:
Bean’s Announcement
Baby Clumps: 15 Weeks
Baby Clumps: 16 Weeks + Gender Reveal
-Baby Clumps: 17 Weeks + Confusion
Baby Clumps: 18 Weeks + Guys at baby showers?

Baby Clumps: 18 Weeks + Guys At Baby Showers?

Guess who is almost halfway done with her pregnancy? This girl here. Soooooooo excited about that! I’m not going to sit here and lie to y’all and be all like, “OMG, pregnancy has been wonderful.” because uh, it hasn’t been. I am grateful to go through this but I can’t wait to see Bean and get back to the things I lost while being pregnant (going to the gym regularly, for instance). I also realize that things may get a bit more difficult from here on out so I should really enjoy these days, uh? I’ve been dressing up, doing my makeup hair and feeling great and I think it’s showing.

I’m still eating and probably gaining weight too. I’ll know how much I’ve gained for sure at my midwife appointment next week. I’m not eating like the health nut I used to be but I’m doing a darn good job at not gagging and you know what-ing. I’m so proud of myself. And Bean. She clearly loves me enough to give me a break. It’s been a pretty decent week. My belly disappeared a bit. Bean moved to my back and because of that I’ve been having crazy back pains all week. She’s moved back to my belly a bit but I’m still not a baby bump-y as I was last week. My acne is clearing up and while I still get mild hits of nausea throughout the day ,they are manageable.

What she’s up to this week…

“At five and a half inches long and five ounces in weight, she now may be large enough for you to feel him twisting, rolling, kicking, and punching his way around the womb. Plus, she’s developing yawning and hiccupping skills (you may feel those soon, too!) and her own unique set of toe and fingerprints.” (source)

I do feel her move! I find it most active at night right before bed. I’ll be up for close to an hour just rubbing coconut oil on my belly and talking to her. I spend the mornings doing the same thing. Esposo spends a lot of time chit-chatting with her. He’s got an incredible voice and sings to her too. Which pretty much brings tears to my eyes. I’m thinking this baby girl will likely come out singing. With both of her parents being decent singers (ahem…I’m not half bad, ya know) and her grandparents being good singers too, Bean may be our ticket out of the Sallie Mae doghouse.

…from the Cult Nails photoshoot. More about that later.

Haha, just kidding. Kinda.

Okay, so random baby topic of the week…as I’ve been prepping for this baby shower in November, I have discovered that I am in the minority in thinking that men at a baby shower is weird. Apparently, men of all nationalities all over the world are invited and encouraged to attend baby showers of spouses, friends and family members. How did I not know this? Most of my experiences with baby showers have been super girl-only affairs with cheesy games. I even asked Esposo if he would like to attend my shower and he gave me an insane side-eye. When I took my thoughts to Twitter, many people told me that their husbands and their guy friends were happy to be a part of their baby showers? Really? I..I…I had no idea.

Have I been living under a rock thinking that baby showers are the kind of events that just for the mommy and her girlfriends? Do men WANT to go to these events or are they dragged by their partners?

Oh! Quick Bean Stats…

Current Obsession: Cinnamon gum. I eat like 2 pieces a day. It curbs my appetite and keeps the nausea at bay. Looooove this stuff. Hated it pre-pregnancy.

Baby Names?: Um no. Esposo and I can’t decide on anything. What I love he hates and vice-versa. And I don’t like hearing other peoples’ opinons. Bean’s name will be revealed after her birth. Until then, she’ll be Bean.

Things I Still Can’t Eat: Meat. I don’t even want to smell it. Green smoothies (which makes me sad), eggs and anything that has a ton of seasoning in it.

Last Baby Item Purchased: I still haven’t gotten anything. Is this normal? Oh! I did buy a belly band yesterday. Which is kinda a baby item. I think?

Goals for Upcoming Week: Do resistance training (upper-body) for 20 minutes at least 3x a week and regular kegal exercises.


Yay or nay to guys at baby showers? Yay or nay to baby showers period? I do think they can be a bit annoyingly  cheesy and uncomfortable (even more so if you aren’t a mother or don’t want to be one) but I’ve been to some fun ones too. Mine will have a heavy beauty spin to it so even if I invited guys, I’m not sure how they’d take to the beautifying. What say you?

Other Baby Posts:
Bean’s Announcement
Baby Clumps: 15 Weeks
Baby Clumps: 16 Weeks + Gender Reveal
-Baby Clumps: 17 Weeks + Confusion

Baby Clumps: 17 Weeks + Confusion

I have fantastic news! I ate regular food this week. Eeeeeek! Y’all have no idea…NO idea how much this means to me. I feel like I’ve been hungover for 3 months and being able to eat something that I actually enjoy without it making me want to hurl is just…amazing. I feel like I should give a speech or something. I’m just so elated.

This week of pregnancy has actually been realllly good. I had a brief stint of random morning sickness that hit me at 7pm on Tuesday and wouldn’t go away but other than that, I’ve been in good spirits with very little complaints. And trust me – that’s the first. I haven’t been so super exhausted but still manage to sleep through the night. Headaches plague me every now and then but as a migraine sufferer, headaches are actually tolerable to me.

Here’s what Bean is up to this week…

My how your baby has grown! She’s about the size of your palm, weighs about five ounces, and is developing some body fat (join the club, baby!). Her heart is now regulated by her brain (no more random beats) to beat 140 to 150 times per minute — about twice as fast as yours! What else is up? She’s practicing the survival skills she’ll need at birth — like sucking and swallowing. (source)

And in other good news – I’ve got a legit baby bump. It’s so adorable and I’m glad to know that it’s not making me look like a whale. Not yet, at least. I’m a plus sized gal and so being pregnant always meant that I wouldn’t be just ALL belly. I didn’t want my pregnant belly to look like a big gut, ya know? I know the un-thin girls out there can relate.

Acne is still attacking my face and now I’ve got bacne. I’ve never had it before so to discover 5-7 pimples on my back is quite disturbing. I want nothing more than to go to the dermatologist for that and my eczema that is going out of control. But I’ll wait until after Bean is born. Hopefully by then, my skin will straighten out.

I’m starting to realize that maybe people were right about that whole “One day you’ll wake up and feel better.” thing is true. I’m not sure what day it was but I stopped being super nauseous, gagging at the thought of food and a belly started to appear. It was as if the clouds lifting and I started feeling like myself again. Thank you, Lord! I can probably go ahead and really start investing in some maternity clothes. I’ve got 2 pairs of pants but zero shirts. I’m not sure if I’m a fan of the super fitted look on pregnant bellies. Granted I don’t need to wear loose “Mommy” shirts but I’ve got to find some comfortable and cute pieces. I’ll probably be thrifting ’em because I just can’t go breaking the bank on brand new maternity wear. Except for maternity/nursing bras because those are SO essential right now.

Can I be honest, chicas? I don’t really know what I should be doing. Like…with anything. There’s nothing that frightens me about being a mother because I know I can do that. But it’s the stuff leading up to it that has me in a whirl of confusion. When do I do a registry? What symptoms warrant fear? Is it okay that I forget to take the other half of my prenatals every day? Is it okay that I’m having a girl but don’t want her doused in pink everything? How much should I be eating? How much is too much? Is sitting for 8 hours a day bad for me? Will this varicose vein go away? Can I get my hair dyed? Is it okay that I don’t desire being a stay-at-home mom? How long should I breastfeed for? Am I getting enough protein in this vegetarian pregnancy?

And yeah – a lot of that stuff is unimportant in the scheme of things and I don’t go around wrecking my brain over them but I wish I wasn’t in such a wave of confusion all the time. I guess all first time moms go through the same thing.

Tis all, y’all! Thank you so much for the continued love and support. I know these baby posts aren’t up everyone’s alley (I realize some people just don’t care about this kind of stuff – and that’s fine) but Clumps has been my love for 5 years so I would feel “off” not sharing this with the Clumps family. Know what I mean?



Other Baby Posts:
Bean’s Announcement
Baby Clumps: 15 Weeks
Baby Clumps: 16 Weeks

Baby Clumps: 16 Weeks + Gender Reveal!

First of all, I don’t even know how people can wait 30-somethin’ weeks to find out if what they’re carrying is a boy or girl. I just…I can’t even deal. I don’t know WHY knowing the gender is so important to me, but it is. Esposo and I both wanted a boy. Men want sons and with my having nothing but sisters, does is seem outrageous to want to break the cycle a bit? But when I really think about – any time I pictured myself as a mother, it was always me being a mother to a little girl.

Since getting pregnant, I’ve had several dreams about baby girls. I just knew that Bean was a girl. I would tell people this and they’d laugh and say, “There’s no way you can just know.” But I did.

Oh! Before I forget, let’s see what Bean is up to this week.

“Your baby now weighs in at a whopping three to five ounces, and is four to five inches in length. The bones that are now in place in his ears means baby can probably hear your voice as you talk to your partner and pals and sing in the car. While baby is getting used to your voice, the tiny muscles in his body, especially the ones in his back, are gaining strength, so he can straighten out a little more. And thanks to the developing facial muscles, your baby is capable of making a few expressive frowns and squints, even at this early stage The eyes are finally working, making small side-to-side movements and perceiving light (although the eyelids are still sealed).” (source)

Here’s to hoping Lé Bean has longer and lusher eyelashes than Mummy. Ha!

As for me: Well, I promised that I’d reveal the truth behind my pregnancy. I wish more women revealed the details (as gore-y as they may be) so that the rest of us could kind of get an idea of what to expect. My face has turned against me. It’s not even funny. I’ve got acne on top of acne. I look in the mirror and don’t even know who I am anymore. Which sounds dramatic but it makes me very sad. I thought I was supposed to have some kind of glow but um no…ain’t no glowin’ over here. The truth, bro…

Sad, ain’t it? Especially since these pimples have just popped up in the past week or so. On a good note, the morning sickness has really subsided. I only get sick early in the morning and in the evenings. Sucking on a Jolly Rancher or munching on cereal keeps the feeling at bay. I have also discovered that I can’t brush my tongue as vigorously as I’d like. I did that this past week and was upchucking Cheerios. Yes. Ew. This gag reflex refuses to go away.

As do the food aversions. I’m used to eating the same things. Eating still sucks but I get it done because I know the minute I get a hunger pang, a headache is soon to follow. First trimester fatigue is back so daily naps are a must. I’m not going to lie, I wish I didn’t have to work during all of this. I think I’d be a happier pregnant woman if I didn’t have to drag myself to work and sit in a chair for 8 hours a day. Just sayin’… As far as sleeping, I can’t ever get comfortable despite getting a body pillow so my back hurts daily. I’m used to a sore back though – I mean, I’ve been carrying DD’s since I was like 16. Okayyyyy?!

Things I’m Great At: Drinking a TON of water, remembering to take prenatal pills, counting pimples and attempting to eat healthy stuffs.

Annoying Symptom: My dog hates me. And has hated me since I became pregnant. It used to hurt my feelings but now I don’t care anymore. She runs from me and acts as if I’m  going to hit her. Someone call Casear Milan, please.

Annoying Things People Say:
“You’re pregnant. Wow. I never want to be pregnant.”

“Enjoy life now because it’s about to be over.”

“Everyone is getting married or pregnant!”

“Loosing the post-baby weight is so hard. It’ll take you years.”

“Are you gonna become a stay at home mom now?”

Biggest Lesson Learned: Keep Bean’s name a secret until Bean is born.

Something to look forward to: The day I can eat real food again. I’ve still got hope. I can’t have aversions the entire pregnancy, can I?

Oh, and….

Bean is a girl!!!!!


The Clumps Facebook page found out first and the love given had me all teary eyed. I love y’all. Despite us both wanting a boy, we were so emotionally choked up when we saw Bean on that ultrasound. And no, I don’t feel bad about “wanting” a certain gender. God blessed us with what He thought we needed and deserved and our little girl will the perfect addition to our geeky family. She’ll be a free-thinker, superhero lovin’, pink-hatin’  (maybe??) Hello Kitty aficando who will speak more than one language. Or she’ll be whoever she wants to be and we’ll be fine with that. 😎

Pregnant or not, would you want to find out your baby’s gender before their birth? Or do you dig the element of surprise? Oh! And crazy pregnancy show of the week? 70 and Pregnant😯 


Other Baby Posts:
Bean’s Announcement
Baby Clumps: 15 Weeks