A Love Letter to the Postpartum Hair Loss Beast

Postpartum Hair Loss

Dear Postpartum Hair Loss Beast,

Hey girl hey. So we meet again, huh? You didn’t catch me off guard like you did with my first pregnancy. Nope. This time, I was awaiting your arrival and had my Black Jamaican castor oil and head wrap game on deck. I knew you were coming to take me out. Things are different this time.

I mean, yes. You are still snatching my edges (quite literally) and have me playing a game called How Far Back Can It Go? with my hairline. There’s mostly humor behind all of this. There’s some sadness, too. Yes, I’m a girl who can confidently rock hair down her back and a bald head but losing your hair never feels good. Especially when you know you have no control over it.

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Bub’s Birth Story

I just went through 200+ pictures that my birth photographer took of Bub’s birth and I still get all emotional. Because ohmigoodness, what an INCREDIBLE birth!

Very rarely do you see words like incredible, life-changing and spectacular used next to “birth” but seriously, y’all…I love giving birth. I love everything about it. I love the mystery. I love how each contraction brings me closer to seeing my  baby. I love how if and when I trust my body, my baby and myself, a baby is…born!

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How Am I 34 Weeks Pregnant?

34 Weeks Pregnant

Okay, two things: A) that image may have been posted before and B) it’s a pretty old picture of the bump. I do take quite a few preggo selfies, but girl…you don’t want to see those. Mainly because they’re usually taken in Esposo’s boxers and not always with a bra on. It’s the ultimate version of TMI and I wouldn’t want to put your eyes through that. 

See how much I love you?

Blog posts will slowlyyyy be coming to a crawl as I prepare for this second babe of mine. I SHOULD be nesting but the freelancer bee that is me is working like mad to stack cash. Self-employed mamas like me don’t have paid maternity leave. Thankfully, my  clients are SO wonderfully understanding and flexible so while I do feel a bit overwhelmed, at least I like what I do. And you know, not working is NOT an option. I like to work. And I like to make money, so there’s that…

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Did I Tell Y’all I Was Having A Homebirth?

7 months pregnant

Sooo…pregnancy. I feel like it has been forever since I  clued the Clumps of Mascara family on what’s been happening with baking Baby #2. I want to say that this pregnancy has flown by but yeah…no. It hasn’t. Those first few months of morning sickness seemed like a century and now that I’m a good 31 weeks, of course life is in overdrive. Surprisingly, I’ve got baby items ready to go so I’m thrilled that at the very least, baby boy will have a onesie or two. 

Physically, I’m dragging and it’s getting difficult to bend over but I’m keeping up with my daily stretches and squats and getting in some walks as much as I can. EB and I hang out at the park where I attempt to chase her and I’ve got my eyes set on a chiropractic adjustment and a prenatal massage. 

I’ve been blogging like a mad woman over at What To Expect and Mom.me but there’s one thing that I haven’t talked about just yet – my homebirth.

I’m having one! 

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Celebrating Summer (and other occasions) with a Coke

​Man, lemme tell you..it doesn’t even feel like summer JUST started. Remember, I’m in Florida. We are summer. We complain when it gets lower than 70 degrees outside and we complain when it’s hotter than 90 degrees outside. Yet we chose this life.Summer means spending more time outside soaking up Vitamin D (safely, of course) and spending time with friends and family. For the record, I did very little working out to prepare for this summer but whatever. You will still find me in a pool or beach somewhere; pudgy tummy and all. 
 
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Summer also means celebrating Esposo’s birthday! 
 
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Vacationing and Baby Baking

Mannnnn, you guys. 

I am soooo here for a stress-free life. I want to live it daily. I yearn for it. I crave it. But truthfully, I only get it when I’m on an exotic island, staying in a hotel and breathing beach air daily. So yeah. Our family vacation was in Puerto Rico this year and we had a blast.

Beach at Puerto Rico

EB didn’t want to leave the water or the pool and Esposo and I loved having so many helping hands assist with toddler duties. We were so excited to get away on a date but uh, we took a nap instead. Which was probably better than a date. Just sayin’. Good sleep is a GOOD thing. I would have also loved to take a ton of pictures of the property to come back and do a thorough post on it but geez, guys…I was a true bum in Puerto Rico. And I’m soooo okay with that! But I did take soooooome pictures.

20 Weeks Pregnant - Baby #2

I know, right? From the woman that was all like Isn’t 1 kid enough? and from the mother who never once in her life had baby fever comes a baking fetus. Isn’t life hilarious? I have to find the humor and joy in it all. Here I am still shocked that I’m a parent of 1 and I’m about to be parent of 2. Someone hold me.

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The Promise Walk for Preeclampsia

Do you know anything about the devastating disorder that is preeclampsia? Affecting pregnant women, preeclampsia is defined as “a rapidly progressive condition characterized by high blood pressure and the presence of protein in the urine”. (source)

Simply put, it is a terrifying disorder that requires proper prenatal care. I have such a passion for supporting and bringing awareness to issues that affect pregnant women and their families. I was thrilled to hear about The Promise Walk for Preeclampsia happening in Miami. While I won’t be able to attend, I’ll be donating to the cause in hopes that the funds that are raised support the families that are affected by preeclampsia . 

2015 Promise Walk for Preeclampsia

If you are in or around the Miami area, consider registering for this walk! For more information visit The Promise Walk.

6 Things I Wish I Would Have Known About Being A First Time Parent

First Time Parent

It’s been a minute since I’ve done a baby post. I was inspired by the blog Baby Sideburns. If you haven’t read that blog, pleeeeease check it out. I love this lady’s approach to parenthood. She keeps it real and doesn’t care what you think about it. I’d much rather read parenting blogs like hers versus the ones that are all like, “I want to raise balanced children and practice attachment parenting, blah blah blah.” Whatever. I like when parents delve into the positives AND negatives of parenting.

So here we go: 6 Things I Wish I Would Have Known About Being A First Time Parent

 

You really WILL miss being pregnant.

FACT: I didn’t enjoy pregnancy that much. I was practically dying the first 4 months and while 2nd trimester was fun, it flew by. And then 3rd trimester came along and brought back pains, heartburn and anxiety. Don’t listen to those women who are all like, “Pregnancy is soooo wonderful.” They’re lying. They didn’t tell you about the hemorrhoids, spontaneous diarrhea, random rashes, sciatic pain or insomnia. But the crazy thing is, even after the physical pains of pregnancy and labor/delivery, I actually MISSED being pregnant. It’s as if I forgot about the morning sickness. I missed the lovely things like feeling EB’s kicks and watching my tummy grow. I missed how powerful I felt. I really do like my body 1,000x better when I’m not with child because pregnancy will wear your body ouuuuut. 

 

Showers and baths are luxuries.

Actually someone did tell me there would be days when I wouldn’t have time to bathe and I didn’t believe them. But it’s so true! Judge me all you want but my longest stretch without bathing was 4 days. I smelled like fresh breast milk and regurgitated breast milk. And defeat. Yes, defeat has a smell. Sexy, uh? Who really has time for a shower when you’ve got a baby who gets up every hour or two? And when they aren’t sleeping, you’re either trying to stuff your face or you’re standing over their crib watching them breathe. So yeah. For all of you folx without kids and want to know what to get that new mom in your life – save the onesies and burp cloths. Come to her house and watch the baby while she showers. Oh, and bring food. In fact, if you were coming to visit me and EB during the early weeks, you weren’t allowed in my house without food.

 

A new baby may alter your marriage a bit.

A baby is a new and hard adjustment for a couple. I was physically tired and overwhelmed and while Esposo went to work a week after EB was born, he was dealing with the guilt of not being around enough WHILE trying to provide for his family. Neither one of us have any family in the area so we had very little help with EB. Our communication halted because I was an emotional wreck and couldn’t always vocalize when I needed help. In fact, things didn’t get better until months later. Every couple deals with this in their own way (and some couples never have adjustment issues…lucky ducks!) but it was definitely something I didn’t expect.

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 You will adapt to having little to no sleep.

I never thought I could do it. I’ve never been one to function without less than 6 hours of sleep. But honey….I am a pro at sleep deprivation now. I will forever toot my own horn because I not only catered to a newborn around the clock but I pumped every 2 hours, maintained a blog, kept the house decent AND had dinner cooked every night. I’m lying about that last part. Y’all know I married Esposo for his cookin’. 😎 But seriously, your body will adapt to the no sleep thing. Oh, and you’ll never sleep in again. Maybe when the kid is 5 or something but yeahhhh….those days of sleeping until 10am are over. Yeah. I cried about it, too.

You officially become one of them: A person with a child.

Parenthood is a club. And it really doesn’t feel like that until you become one. Before kids, I was just a person without kids. But now that I’m a parent, my social life is baby-based. When friends are all like, “Ooooh, let’s do dinner at 6pm.” I’m all like, “Um no! EB has to get picked up from the sitter.” Everything I want to do is surrounded around the bebe. And only friends with kids get this. They understand if I’m running 15 minutes behind because even though I was ready to leave EB had poop seeping out of her diaper and then spewed milk all over her dress. Friends with kids get it. Friends without kids aren’t always so understanding and I get it because I too used to be like “OMG…do your kids control your life?” Actually, they do.

If you’re breastfeeding, you’ll want to eat all the time.

I wasn’t the typical pregnant woman. I never had cravings, gained 9 lbs during pregnancy and lost 12 lbs shortly after giving birth. And although I exclusively pump for EB, I didn’t think I’d deal with the normal breastfeeding woes. Like the ravenous appetite. That appetite is unreal, y’all. It’s like, “Feed me now! Feed me everything in sight.” And I get it – pumping/breastfeeding burns a lot of calories but dang, I never expected to eat insane amounts of food. And the crazy thing is, you don’t even care. Like normally I’d be embarrassed about eating so much. Pfft. Whatever. The first time I went to brunch with a gal pal I ordered TWO meals to eat there and then a meal to eat on the way home. Because the 15 minutes it took to get home, I just knew I’d be starving again. True story.

Bonus: Baby blues are real.

I like to consider myself emotionally stable. Haha. Just kidding. But seriously, I’ve never dealt with depression so I just knew I wouldn’t have an issue with the baby blues. Please. I was an emotional, hot and cold, crying mess for 3 weeks straight. It felt unreal. I’ll never forget the day Esposo and I were chatting and I just burst out into tears. He’s all like, “What’s wrong?” “I don’t knowwwww.” I’m telling him. I was literally crying for no reason. None. This happened frequently. In fact, when I noticed that I hadn’t cried for an entire 3 days, I felt like throwing myself a party. Being a new mom is haaaaard. It just is. You are physically and emotionally overwhelmed ALL the time. You adore your baby but you kinda miss the free life, too. You want more help but you want to do everything yourself. You want to be the perfect mom but baby won’t stop crying. You want to poop but that whole “just had a baby” thing makes it difficult. Too much information? Whatever. These things are important to know and I wish someone would have told me. I was glad to know that several other girlfriends also dealt with baby blues and got over it. And those that didn’t, went and got professional help.

But through it all, being a Mom is awesome. And fun. Any first time parents out there?