I’ve never been a people pleaser. Seriously. I don’t mind telling people NO and rarely do I feel the need to be liked. I’m stating this now because if you’re someone who is a people pleaser, I would imagine reading the rest of this may leave you a bit bug-eyed.
You’ve been warned. Here are some flowers to prep you.
2018 has presented me with many difficult situations. I’m not complainin’. I’m just sayin’. For most of this year, I’ve had to tackle things I’ve been running away from and communicate words I never wanted to say. This is adulting. I can rock with it. I have no choice, right?
Through these situations and despite my effort of trying to be an effective communicator, I’ve realized something…everyone is not going to get you.
Maybe you knew this already.
Good for you.
This is a lesson that has been apparent my entire life but only until recently did I finally get it.
It’s like when you finally understand the concept behind why a cow is Chick Fil-A’a mascot. You feel foolish for not knowing this before and also…how genius, right?
You aren’t everyone’s cup of tea. Even if you’re kind. Even if you smile. Even if you have a bubbly personality and think you have a welcoming spirit.
Maybe early childhood shenanigans on the playground didn’t prepare you for this but guess what? Everyone is not going to like you.
I know, I know. But it’s true. Guess what else?
It doesn’t matter.
No, really. Not connecting with people doesn’t always feel great and you’re welcome to ponder the why’s behind that but I’ve realized that is absolutely okay that everyone won’t get you.
I’ve felt this way quite a bit in my immediate family. I just felt different.The jobs I had/have, the way I raise my children, how I look, what I associate myself with and everything else appears to be so different from everyone else in the family. More times than not, I feel misunderstood.
And lemme tell you, whether you’re okay with people not getting you or not, being misunderstood never feels good. It’s a lonely place to be. NO ONE wants to feel misunderstood.
I try so hard.
So please don’t let me be misunderstood – Nina Simone.
But you can only do what you can do. And you can only control yourself. You aren’t always responsible for what people think about you.
Keep doing and being you. You will survive if everyone doesn’t get you.
Pay attention to you.
You’ll be fine.