I already know some of you will get annoyed with some of the things I mention in this blog post. That’s okay. Whether I encourage you to think differently or piss you off, I’m grateful you took time to read this.
Also, keep in mind that I’m well aware that all situations/circumstances are different. There is no One Size Fits All Blogger suit.
But in general, here is what I think some of y’all need to stop doing…
Stop being a copycat
Yes, I’m talking to you. The world is full of copycats. I like to think that we don’t mean to copy others but sometimes it’s easier to do what appears to work for others than do our own things. Stop that. If you can’t figure out what it is about you that can make you stand out, I recommend doing some personal development work. Read a book or something.
Stop thinking everyone is your competition
Few things are as diverse as the blogosphere. Your only competitor is the person you were yesterday.
Stop thinking people want to mentor you
First of all, I don’t care how well you know someone, don’t ever assume people want to help you. People are so focused on their own hustles that they don’t always want to be your mentor or accountability partner. No one owes you a darn thing. The struggle is real and though you may share laughs and experiences with people does not mean they may want to help you with your brand, blog or business. Do your own work.
Stop thinking it’s all about you
People trip me out. They’ll see a friend or colleague secure an opportunity that they wanted and they’ll start questioning how their friend scored that opportunity and they didn’t. Are you serious? What does your friend’s accomplishment have to do with you? So you didn’t get an invite to Disney’s Social Media Moms Celebration and you’re suddenly fuming with jealous rage while posting fake happy messages on your friend’s Facebook pages? Empathetic me wants to say “It’s okay. Feel your feelings.” but no. Screw that. Why should anyone else’s accomplishments make YOU feel bad? Their wins are about them. Celebrate with them and realize that this is THEIR time to shine. If you can’t celebrate with them because you’re too into your own feelings, just log off the internet, girl.
Which reminds me…
Stop being greedy
So you want all the wins, huh? Seriously? What makes you think that you’re entitled to win ALL THE TIME? Did you forget about that time you scored a campaign you really wanted? Or how you were able to hit your money goals? Yes, keep working hard but my goodness…stop expecting that you’ll always win. Stay humble and stay focused. Put your all in what you do but do not base your entire existence on opportunities you DON’T get.
Stop being comfortable
Say yes to opportunities that scare you. Do something you’ve never done. Step outside of your comfort zone. Hate video? Do video. Not a fan of local events? Host a local event. If it freaks you out a bit, you should probably do it.
Over the numbers. Over what other people are doing. Over your inbox. Over Twitter. Just stop. Yes, I know it’s easier said than done. Yes, I know companies and networks have us thinking we have to have X-amount of followers to get to a certain place. But stop the madness. You didn’t get where you are because of your numbers. It’s because of what you bring to the table. Keep that in mind and stop stressing over all of the details that do nothing but make you go crazy.
Stop thinking everything is for you
Because it’s not. And that’s okay.
Stop using “I’m such an introvert” as an excuse
Don’t side eye me. You know it’s true…
Stop working allllllll the time
It’s okay to step away, take a break and go on Digital Detoxes. You won’t miss anything and no one will miss you. Is that harsh? It’s true. And lemme tell you, life without social media is pretty fantastic.
These are just a few suggestions I have for bloggers and influencers. Did anything stick out to you? Annoy you? Make you feel some kind of way?
Let’s talk about it!